Teen Issues- Getting a Job / Getting money

Although some teens get everything they want from their parents, there are some of us who really have to work hard in order to get money especially in the summer when you want to go have fun with your friends. Lets face it, money is a necessity and with careful planning, it can be earned really fast. You can get money by getting a weekend job or a summer job. Its quite easy, just write a resume and an application letter and then drop it off at different firms/ store/ you name it. Make sure to send applications to different places in order to heighten your chances of being employed. By getting job, this increases the level of respect that your parents have for you and also independence. Trust me. Nothing tried, nothing gained.

Teen issues- lack of independence from parents

Hi guys, today was a very tiresome one for me but I decided to come online to speak about another teen issue, that is, the issue of 'independence'. According to the internet, independence is freedom from dependence on or control by another person, organization or state. To be dependent on one's parents is to need or rely on them for help or support especally financially. This is an issue that undoubtedly every teen has to face, most if not all. Some parents, however, exceed the boudaries to which they can control a teen's life these parents are classified as being "over protective". Research as shown that the parents of a female will be more controllive than that of a male. This does not mean that a girl's parents CARE more, but rather, out of fear of how men view women in today's society a parent would try to protect his/ her child from abuse [mentally or physically], from an unwanted pregnancy etc. Furthermore, it is also evident that it is when these parents are "too protective" that their child will be "curious" or "rebellious" to HIDE and do the very same things that these parents were trying so very hard to prevent. We, as teens, are human beings. We have feelings just like any adult and [some] of us are even WISE enough to make our own decisions [wise decisions]. Sure, many will have to learn the hard way but the fact of the matter is that eventually they will learn. So parents need not try to protect their parents from watever they think they are protecting them from because eventually they will come in contact with it or be in that situation [unless that teen is literally going to be locked in a cage]. A wise parent, however, would teach their teen to protect THEMSELF because it is physically impossible for a parent to ALWAYS be there to protect their teen. For these teens with overtly strict parents, i would advise that you just listen to what your parents have to say, let them be right because when you go OUT there in the world and something bad happens to you, they will be the one laughing and dont you dare let them win this race. So take the arguments with a closed mouth. obey etc. Eventually it will all end. Because in the end, it will be alright, so if it is not alright, then it is simply not the end.
      Independence is an achievement that is also gained with age. A teen may find that as he or she grows older, their parents will be less strict about protection and those things. They will come to the realization that their teen is infact growing up and will soon be ready to leave the nest.
      Do not behave "wild" and expect your parents to give you freedom. Come on people. Think. The thought of you drunk in jail after a party is enough to send any parent to hell and back. Show your parents that you can make WISE decisions and they will trust you more hence, giving you independence.
     Subsequently, it is literally their JOB to make sure that you have food, clothing and shelter. A parent can serve hard time for neglecting a child. And after soooo many years of investing in school supplies and the basic commodities of life!!! a parent wants to make sure that their child turns out to be a responsible adult. Being protective and controllive will help to avoid danger or any deterrent to this aim. So be a good sport. So, to end this disscussion, I will ask the question....
What would life be like if you had all the freedom in the world? and how would this "freedom" affect your future? would you still be in school? would you turn to a life of crime? post your comments below.

Teen issues - Peer pressure

Hey guys! so i decided to ask people from my school about problems that they face on a everyday basis as teenagers. Upon conducting surveys, interviews etc, I found out that MOST of the problems that affect persons in my age group [teenagers] are:

Peer pressure

Lack of independence from parents

Getting a job

Getting money

Keeping up with fashion

Family problems

Relationship problems

Sex

School pressure

etc.....

I will try to deal with these issues separately because sometimes not all problems are linked/ intertwined. Lets first examine the issue of PEER PRESSURE.

I,myself, am a victim of this disease. [it's not actually a disease people -_-]. But at times I want to fit in and be part of whatever the "group" is doing. After all, they are your friends, so why not do the things they do?
I interviewed a friend who prefers to go by the name of "TEZ" and this is what he had to say about this issue.

Pookie: what are some of the issues you face a s a teenage boy?

Tez: Peer Pressure [thinks for a long while]....[looks around the room]...I do not work so I have to ask my parents all the time for money and that affects me because I want to be independent.

Pookie: How does peer pressure and this lack of independence intertwine?

Tez: Because in order to be independent you gotta have financial "backitive" to do stuff with your friends for example going out and buying clothes to go out etc etc.

Pookie: So what do you try to do in order to solve these problems?

Tez: I try to save my lunch money and do odd jobs around the house like painting and stuff.

Pookie: what do you think is easier to get rid of, the peer pressure or the lack of independence?

Tez: lack of independence because with age you get more responsible hence your parents will treat you differently and give you space to be yourself. However, no matter how old you get, you will always have friends who influence your thoughts and activities.

Pookie: what advice would you give teenagers with similar problems such as peer pressure and lack of independence?

Tez: don't let your friends' way of life influence you in everyway, try to choose what is best for you. And in terms of lack of independence, just try to be responsible and independence will follow. once your parents realize that  you are getting older and making wise choices then independence should follow.

Wise words coming from my friend "Tez". oh! and if you need more friend check out this video on how to get friends. but just do not let them influence you alot!!

EDIT: could not find the video i wanted :( but i hope this one helped too. In conclusion, here are a few tips on how to actually deal with peer pressure!!!!! :D
1. Be a leader, not a follower [except on twitter yall!! follow me! "paula_twinkle"]
2. Share your views with members of the group. how will they know you do not like something if you do not tell them? chances are, they will consider your point and realize its no worth doing watever it is in the first place.
3. Say "NO". its so simple. Someone can not FORCE you to do something that you do not want to do. it is against the law and they can go to jail etc etc.
4. Talk to someone else about what is going on in the group. If you talk to a fellow group member, they wouldnt think its wrong. so its best to talk to someone who is not apart of the group.
5. get new friends!! If you realize that your friends are not the type of people you should be hanging out with, get new friends. its free!!!

Family! that's where it's at!!

When everyone else turns their back on you, family will always be there to comfort you. In the teenage years its likely that your family will seem like the last resort for discussing matters or even simple happiness!!! your brother becomes the most annoying person in the world! and your sister just don't know when to quit! there will seem to be pure hate within you, so much that you would hurt the person and then [most likely] regret it!! Not to mention the "rents"!! [parents].
For some teens, parents play a integral role in their social life. Their parents would sit and have one on one convos with them or even spend those "quality times" with them. For others, the thought of being that close to the parental unit is just as scary as justin beiber without clothes! [not a beiber fan]. And then there are those few who want....no...need to be close to their parents but simply cannot. For those of you out there who fall predominantly in this category,here are a few tips to initiate that new parent-child relationship:

1. get involved with tasks: help a parent move an item or fix something that is broken. this is likely to start a conversation which will open the door for growth in a relationship.

2. Ask questions: How will you know what is on their mind if you do not ask questions? you can start by asking how their day went and then move unto current affairs, finally, asking personal questions.

3. laugh more often: laughing at a parent's joke will let them feel younger and more open to the idea of being close with you on those terms.

4. show appreciation: buy a small gift to show how much you appreciate your parent in your life. after all, here today, gone tomorrow.

5.Watch tv together and discuss the issues that are happening.

So there. being a teen and a loving member of the family isn't quite that hard. and remember this is all just a phase. Take care of yourself, and each other.

Getting to know Pookie

Just a few stuff about the creator of this blog [that's me :D]

1. What is your best friends name? wacki

2. What color underwear/boxers wearing now? red

3. What are you listening to right now? nothing

4. Whats your favorite number? 11

5. What was the last thing you ate? fried fish

6. If you were a crayon what color would you be? the yellow crayon

7. How is the weather right now? sunny

8. Who was the last person you talked 2 on the phone? wacki

9. The first thing you notice about the opposite sex? umm.... it depends

10. Do you have a significant other? surely

11. Favorite TV show? being human

12. Siblings? 2

13. Height? 5ft 5"

14. Hair color? dark brown

15. Eye Color? dark brown

16. Do you wear contacts? no

17. Favorite Holiday? christmas

18. Month? july

19. Have you ever cried for no reason? yes

20. What was the last movie you watched? the adjustment bureau

21. Favorite Day of the Year? ma b.day

22. Are you too shy to ask someone out? no

23. Can you do a headstand (not using the wall)? lol.no. i'll fall

24. Hugs or Kisses? both

25. Chocolate or Vanilla? both

26. Do you want your friends to respond to this? i doubt they will

27. Who is most likely to respond? someone mysterious

28. Who is least likely to respond? umm...lolz..ppl who know me in real life

29. What books are you reading? The mathematics of love/ emma darwin

30. Piercings? few

31. Favorite movies? horror movies

32. Favorite football Team? .....none

33. what were u doing before this? watching videos online

34. Butter, Plain or Salted popcorn? butter

37. Dogs or cats? dogs

38. Favorite flower? tulip

39. Been caught doing something you weren't supposed to do? no

40. Do you have a best friend of the opposite sex? yes

41. Have you ever loved someone? yes

42. Who would you like to see right now? wacki

43. Are you still friends with people from kindergarten? yes

44. Have you ever fired a gun? no

45. Do you like to travel by plane? no

46. Right-handed or Left-handed? right

47. How many pillows do you sleep with? one

48. Are you missing someone? yus

49. Do you have a Tattoo? no

1. The phone rings; who do you want it to be? wacki 2. When shopping at the grocery store, do you return your cart? yes 3. In a social setting, are you more of a talker or a listener? listener 4. Do you take compliments well? yes 5. Do you play Sudoku? sometime 6. If abandoned alone in the wilderness, would you survive? yes. 7. Do you like to ride horses? no 8. Did you ever go to camp as a kid? no 9. What was your favorite game as a kid? .....had alot 10. If a sexy person was pursuing you, but you knew he/she was married, would you go for it? no 11. Have you lied to get out of a date? no 12. Could you date someone with different religious beliefs than you? no 13. Do you like to pursue or be pursued? be pursued 14. Use three words to describe yourself? black, strong, independent 15. Do any songs make you cry? somewhat 16. Are you continuing your education? yes 17. Do you know how to shoot a gun? no 18. If your house was on fire, what would be the first thing you grabbed? cellphone 19. How often do you read books? almost everyday 20. Do you think more about the past, present or future? past 21. What is your favorite children's book? ..... 22. What color are your eyes? dark brown 23. How tall are you? previously answered 24. Where is your dream house located? england 25. Do you have a secret fetish? no... 26. Have you tried sushi? no 27. Have you ever taken pictures in a photo booth? no 28. When was the last time you were at Olive Garden? never 29. When was the last time you were at Church? lol.i cannot recall 30. Where was the furthest place you traveled today? tha refrigerator 31. What was your favorite job?.... 32. Do you like mustard? yes 33. Do you prefer to sleep or eat? eat 34. Do you look like your mom or dad? neither 35. How long does it take you in the shower? 15 mins 36. Can you do the splits? no 37. What movie do you want to see right now? none. 38. If you could fast forward your life, would you? YES! to pass these exams 39. What did you do for New Year's? see the world 40. Do you think The Grudge was scary? no 41. Could you relate to a character in Mean Girls? no 42. Do you own a camera phone? no 43. Do you have an "ex box" with pics and letters from past lovers? no :/ 44. Was your mom a cheerleader? no 45. What's the last letter of your middle name? E 46. Do you like your middle name? yes 47. How many hours of sleep do you get a night? 5-6 48. Do you like care bears? no! 49. What do you buy at the movies? popcorn n pizza 50. Do you know how to play poker? no 51. Do you wear your seatbelt? sometimes 52. What do you wear to sleep? it depends 53. Anything big ever happen in your hometown? apart from everyone dying?? 54. How many meals do you eat a day? 3 minimum 55. Is your tongue pierced? no 56. Ever meet anyone you met on myspace? no 57. Do you read myspace bulletins? no 58. Do you like funny or serious people better? funny 59. Ever been to L.A.? no 60. Did you eat a cookie today? no 61. Do you use cuss words in other languages? yes lol 62. Do you steal or pay for your music downloads? i wont say...lol 63. Do you hate chocolate? sometimes 64. What do you and your parents fight about the most? everything and anything 65. Are you a gullible person? no 66. Do you need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be happy? sometimes 67. If you could have any job what would it be? lawyer 68. Are you easy to get along with? yes 69. What is your favorite time of day? midday

5 Easy steps to cope with depression.

Well, everyone gets depressed at some point in their life. whether its because of their family, financial problems or just the feeling of being alone, we all feel the symptoms of if. Personally, i get depressed alot. So often that sometimes I think I'm bipolar! and it really puts a strain on my relationship sometimes but luckily I was blessed with a kind and understanding bf. After researching [i do that alot....he thinks am crazy], i found out 5 ways to cope with depressing. It may not be as effective the first time you try these steps but after regular practice you will find that you are happy and healthy.

Step 1: Get Educated about Depression

Yes, it starts right there. Learn about depression and how it affect your body, how you can cure it etc etc. You gotta understand the condition before you can treat it. Think like a doctor.

Step 2: Be optimistic

Person with depression sometimes feel hopeless. trust me. happens to me all the time. Learn that you are the one in control of you destiny!

Step 3: Get away!

If it's a particular person or matter that is making you depressed, you need to get away from that negative energy. and while away from it, do things to occupy your time to get you mind off it. which brings us to...

Step 4: Get Busy [lol]

Persons who have lots of stuff to do, don't have time to be depressed. when you get involved in something, you will concentrate on that and hence, will not have time to wallow in thoughts. For example;playing a sport, managing a blog etc.

Step 5: Talk about it

Chances are, not many persons know how you feel inside, you might try to hide how you feel from the world. But you need to get all those feelings out. Talk to someone you can trust or someone to whom you are very close.
hope these tips helped. and also try wearing bright colours and surrounding yourself with bright colours.
~pookie

How to lose 5 pounds in 2 days!

So i was surfing around the net [like i always do] just looking for stuff to occupy my time when i came upon this video on videojug.com [a website that teaches you how to do things]. So i watched this video, about losing weight in a short amount of time and i tried it and it really worked!!! I am not a fat person, by the way nothing is wrong with being fat! just putting that out there, but i would indeed love to TONE my body. so i tried it and it worked. The trick is drinking WATER! cold, pure water.

How it works!

That so-called fat you see jiggling on you body is not actually fat! its "water weight". Actual fat is FIRM. Your body is simply making an effort to store as much water as possible because maybe you do not drink enough of it. so by drinking more water, your body wont have to rely on its mechanisms to store it. You might find that you pee more often after trying this technique, but that's a good thing! so if you are interested. try it. you have nothing to lose but weight. :)
love
~pookie

Being a Teen is...

Hey everyone! my name is Pookie and I have created this blog to help you survive the teenage phase of your life. Yes, it might seem difficult and its like everything that can go wrong is actually going wrong but dont sweat. You got this. I,myself, am a teenager. I am a 17yr old female currently living in the caribbean. Yes! like you, i go through alot of stuff. unimaginable stuff. but hopefully, my experiences will help you survive yours and you will realize that being a teen is just a phase, you'll get pass it and its not that difficult to survive.