Teen Issues- Relationship Problems

Every relationship develop problems over time. The most important thing is how you work together to solve / overcome them. One may say that the most important things in a relationship are: trust, communication, love and honesty. If you find that your relationship lack any of these components then your relationship might be subjected to problems.

Trust

This is important in order to have a healthy relationship. Lets face it, if no trust exist between you and your partner, there will be MORE arguments and MORE anger...these may in turn lead to a very bad environment to live in or a bad person to be around... issues such as ABUSE and DEPRESSION may develop. Its ok to have doubts a bit, but lack of trust entirely can prove to be detrimental to one's health, relationship and well-being.

Communication

What is a relationship without communication?  it wouldnt be a relationship in the first place. Lets face it, your partner has to know how you feel and why you feel that way.

Love

If there is a relationship without love, then it makes no sense to continue. This is why most married couples in up with a divorce, they get tired of eachother and the love is simple not there anymore. Love is vital to every relationship else it will crash and burn.

Honesty

Why would you lie to the person that you claim you love soo much? it just does not make sense. If you respect your partner, you would tell them the truth, no matter how much it hurts, the truth will eventually set you free.

Hence, it is imperative that all these factors are included in your relationship in order to extend its life span. Remember, looks is what initiates the relationship, but personality keeps its goin ;)

Teen Issues- Family Problems

Believe it or not, everyone has family problems. Whether it is financially, emotionally or physically, every family goes through some sort of problem. The trick is to count your blessings, at least you have a family because many do not. The main way to get over the depression of existing in a family that has problem [that is, every family, because every family has problems] is to sit and talk about it. sometimes, family members do not even know that you are being troubled by something that is family orientated. How will they know if you do not speak up? do not sit and wallow in depression and always remember that though times never last but tough people do. If the problem is with finance, you can seek to attain a job to help out yourself and possibly other family members. If the problem is about emotions, seek to get help from a counsellor or a member of the church. remember to report abuse whether it be verbal abuse or physical abuse because over time it will still persist and get worst. No one should have to adhere to any physical misdemeanor. 

Teen Issues- Keeping up with fashion

Although this may stand as a major issue on its own, there can be numerous contributors to the problem of keeping up with new fashion trends. One such contributor is peer pressure while, to a lesser extend, the unability to FUND new purchases. In recent times, the way an individual dress can determine how he/ she is classed socially. This is evident in both adults and teens, however, the need to "fit in" may impact a teens eagerness to be fashion forward even more so than an adult. Like music, fashion changes almost everyday and one may find it extremely hard to keep up with whats hot TODAY. In the song "yellow brick road" by Eminem [my favourite singer], Mr.eminem described his childhood being a white kid in a black environment [no racism intended]. He then went on to state how he was cool one day and then the next day at school a new shoes was the "in thing".

My first year in 9th grade, can't forget that day at school
It was cool till your man MC Shan came through
And said that Puma's The Brand 'cause the clan makes troops
It was rumors but man, god damn, they flew
Must've been true because man we done banned they shoes
I had the new ones the Cool J, Ice land swayed too
And we just through them in the trash like they yesterday's news
Guess who came through next, X-clan debut
Professor X vanglorious exists in a state of red, black, and green
With a key sissies now with this being a new trend
We don't fit in crackers is out with Cactus albums

 
And lets be realistic, there is no way you can be a fashion forward person if you cannot afford to shop on a regular basis. An awesum tip is so buy expensive durable clothes instead of cheap easy to be destroyed ones. In conclusion, fashion keeps changing, so if you are not with it, you are behind it...but dont let it get you down. its just clothes people....aint life more important??

Teen Issues- Getting a Job / Getting money

Although some teens get everything they want from their parents, there are some of us who really have to work hard in order to get money especially in the summer when you want to go have fun with your friends. Lets face it, money is a necessity and with careful planning, it can be earned really fast. You can get money by getting a weekend job or a summer job. Its quite easy, just write a resume and an application letter and then drop it off at different firms/ store/ you name it. Make sure to send applications to different places in order to heighten your chances of being employed. By getting job, this increases the level of respect that your parents have for you and also independence. Trust me. Nothing tried, nothing gained.

Teen issues- lack of independence from parents

Hi guys, today was a very tiresome one for me but I decided to come online to speak about another teen issue, that is, the issue of 'independence'. According to the internet, independence is freedom from dependence on or control by another person, organization or state. To be dependent on one's parents is to need or rely on them for help or support especally financially. This is an issue that undoubtedly every teen has to face, most if not all. Some parents, however, exceed the boudaries to which they can control a teen's life these parents are classified as being "over protective". Research as shown that the parents of a female will be more controllive than that of a male. This does not mean that a girl's parents CARE more, but rather, out of fear of how men view women in today's society a parent would try to protect his/ her child from abuse [mentally or physically], from an unwanted pregnancy etc. Furthermore, it is also evident that it is when these parents are "too protective" that their child will be "curious" or "rebellious" to HIDE and do the very same things that these parents were trying so very hard to prevent. We, as teens, are human beings. We have feelings just like any adult and [some] of us are even WISE enough to make our own decisions [wise decisions]. Sure, many will have to learn the hard way but the fact of the matter is that eventually they will learn. So parents need not try to protect their parents from watever they think they are protecting them from because eventually they will come in contact with it or be in that situation [unless that teen is literally going to be locked in a cage]. A wise parent, however, would teach their teen to protect THEMSELF because it is physically impossible for a parent to ALWAYS be there to protect their teen. For these teens with overtly strict parents, i would advise that you just listen to what your parents have to say, let them be right because when you go OUT there in the world and something bad happens to you, they will be the one laughing and dont you dare let them win this race. So take the arguments with a closed mouth. obey etc. Eventually it will all end. Because in the end, it will be alright, so if it is not alright, then it is simply not the end.
      Independence is an achievement that is also gained with age. A teen may find that as he or she grows older, their parents will be less strict about protection and those things. They will come to the realization that their teen is infact growing up and will soon be ready to leave the nest.
      Do not behave "wild" and expect your parents to give you freedom. Come on people. Think. The thought of you drunk in jail after a party is enough to send any parent to hell and back. Show your parents that you can make WISE decisions and they will trust you more hence, giving you independence.
     Subsequently, it is literally their JOB to make sure that you have food, clothing and shelter. A parent can serve hard time for neglecting a child. And after soooo many years of investing in school supplies and the basic commodities of life!!! a parent wants to make sure that their child turns out to be a responsible adult. Being protective and controllive will help to avoid danger or any deterrent to this aim. So be a good sport. So, to end this disscussion, I will ask the question....
What would life be like if you had all the freedom in the world? and how would this "freedom" affect your future? would you still be in school? would you turn to a life of crime? post your comments below.